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  • mtlieb
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    Re: Really in need of direction here...

    LOL.

    TRUST ME when i say that a) i will never walk around with my boxers exposed, and b) nobody would want to see that! I'm so un-hip anyway, i'm always about a decade behind. I've just recently entered the world of 90's fashions

    Thanks for the chuckles!

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  • Laoshur
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    Jim,

    As a college Biology prof I always told my freshmen students (in the US, never in China!) that the reason why they wore their pants this way was that their parents wore them so tight that they raised the temperature of their testes, which causes infertility. Today's students are determined not to repeat their parents failures.

    I know this is not the humor column, but thought you might want amunition in cast this ever turned up in a discussion with your fellow students.

    Rhoda

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  • Reenie
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    Dear Jim,

    I'm so happy to hear that school is going so much better than you thought it would. I'm kinda weird. Every time the weather starts to get a little crisp I think I'm supposed to go back to school myself. Maybe one of these days.... Anyway, I'm proud of you for just jumping right in.

    Reenie

    Oh, and Jim, if you DO start wearing your boxers hanging out, warn me first.

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  • mtlieb
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    School

    Hi Everybody,

    I've made plenty of negative posts here in my time, so i thought maybe it wouldn't hurt to post a positive one for a change! Don't be afraid... i promise i'll return to my usual morose self after this post

    I sincerely want to thank everyone who encouraged me to go back to school. Thanks in large part to funding from the Office of Vocational Rehabilitation, i'm here at Grad school and so far it has been fantastic! I can't tell you the last time i actually felt this good. What a hoot! School's a whole lot of work, but to be honest i enjoy it so much it doesn't feel like work at all. I was so worried about being in classes with so many younger students and that it would make me feel old and stupid. But you know... it's exactly the opposite. It's rejuvenating actually... young minds, fresh ideas. I feel like i'm getting a second chance at youth here!

    Anyway, i should cut this off before i get so corny as to make all of you puke (oops... too late). But thanks again for everyone who encouraged me to make this decision. It is turning out to be one of those major life-altering decisions that you could never have predicted for yourself, but in the end you're so glad that you made it.

    Jim

    P.S. An observation on current university fashions... am i expected to start wearing boxer shorts and wear my jeans down around my ankles? What in the heck is UP with that? Good lord!

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  • mtlieb
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    Thanks Pat, that really helps

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  • Pat
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    Jim,

    As a former college professor, I want to assure you that you will be among your faculty's favorite students! Adults always worry that they've lost their abilities to study & memorize. What you've gained over the years more than makes up for any little losses.

    You are mature; you have a sense of direction, and you have a level of motivation which few late-adolescents and young adults have--at least in relation to their studies! Some say it is hormones & others just say it is the developmental stage, but most college students are more interested in recreational pursuits than in their studies. The college classroom, I believe, really benefits from the mixing of ages and interests; I think it is more interesting today than it was 20 or 30 years ago.

    So, to both of you, Jim & Michelle, enjoy your new challenges and enjoy the thrill of mastering new knowledge and skills!

    Pat

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  • mtlieb
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    Thanks Michelle,

    Good luck to you also. Wow! You certainly deserve a lot of credit for what you are doing... juggling family, work, doctor's visits, and school all at the same time. You go, girl!

    Were you nervous at all about going back to school? I gotta tell you, it's been twenty years since i cracked open a textbook, and i'm nervous as heck! My school starts in a couple of weeks, and i keep wondering... am i still smart enough to do this... have i already killed too many brain cells to be able to learn anything new... what will all the younger folks think of me... it sounds funny i know, but these are the things that actually go through my head.

    Take care, and best wishes in your new career

    Jim

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  • mflanagn
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    Hi Jim, good for you going back to school. You are never too old to go back. I lost my job a couple of years ago when my company closed. I decided I needed a new career. I am almost 40 and am starting nursing school in 2 weeks. I will graduate in May of 2005. Its really a lot of work, great challenge and actually interesting for me. It gets a little stressful with 2 kids, working part time and running to cardiologist visists every 6 months, but I think it will be well worth it. I'm sure you will feel that way also. Good luck with your classes.

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  • mtlieb
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    Thanks Doug,

    Over the past several months, i have been in Montana, Wyoming and Idaho looking for work... and now i am back in PA for school. Yikes! Sometimes i have no idea where i live. LOL. Congrats on your successful myectomy! I'm in southwest PA, which is on the complete opposite end of the state from Allentown.

    You take care of yourself buddy, and please, continue to keep us updated on your situation

    Jim

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  • dughr
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    Jim,

    Did you recently move? I thought you were in Montana. I see now you are in Penn.

    Incidentally, in case you missed my post, I finally got the surgery. We have couple we visit in Allentown on occasion, are you near there?

    Doug

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  • mtlieb
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    Wow... thanks Lisa!

    I think the best thing about all of this is finally having some direction. At least for the next two years, i know where i am going to be, what i am doing, what is expected of me, and that there are opportunities waiting for me when i graduate. That feels pretty good right now. Not to mention the fact that this option comes with health insurance, which alone pays for the money i have to borrow from the feds. Right now it feels like a win/win situation

    Thanks again to everybody for letting me do my rambling here!

    Jim

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  • Lisa Salberg
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    CONGRATULATIONS JIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    What a good day and a wonderful new chapter in your life!
    Good luck on the road to your masters!


    Lisa

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  • mtlieb
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    Back to school... woo hoo!

    I just received my letter of acceptance to graduate school yesterday and the OVR has agreed to help fund that. They normally dont assist in post-graduate work, however, my bachelors degree is twenty years old now and no longer applies to my current job situation. I do not feel the slightest bit bad about accepting help through the OVR, as i have spent the past seven months now pounding the pavement and feel that i have more than adequately exhausted all of my job leads. I'll still have to utilize low-interest federal loans for housing, etc. but heck, i've almost been dead a few times now, what are a few loans at this point?

    I am excited about school (but also a bit nervous) and my master's degree will be in a field that will incorporate my archaeology and mapping expertise and experience, yet moves me into a more computer-oriented office-type position... GIS/Cartography. Most archaeology firms are now hiring GIS specialists. I should have no problem finding work, and i'll still get to hang around with the scruffy archaeologist gang and get out into the field every now and again, but in a much less physically demanding role. And in two years when i complete the program, i believe that i will have an opportunity for a fresh start, and put all of the past employment issues behind me.

    Not to mention that getting my master's degree in itself will be an achievement i can be proud of, and a much-needed boost to my self-confidence.

    Thanks for all your support

    Jim

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  • Lee
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    a suggestion about jobs

    I used to be a terrible job interviewee.

    Then I read a book that I highly recommend ---

    Anthony Medley's Sweaty Palms: The Neglected Art of Being Interviewed

    I began practicing for job interviews with a tape recorder. I would ask myself the toughest questions I could and practiced giving short glib truthful answers in 30 seconds or less.

    For one job I really wanted, I researched the interviewer, and read the dissertation he had written. I waited for a pause in the interview. I asked him a question about the dissertation. He was floored, and asked why I had done that. I told him that I was selling myself as a creative researcher, and I wanted him to know I was a creative researcher. I got an offer.

    Being a good interviewee is a learned skill. You can learn it. If I can learn it, anyone can.

    What kind of job do you want? What would be your dream job?

    There are tremendous resources here ont he board that can, and will, assist.

    Good luck.

    Lee

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  • Lisa Salberg
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    Lets be a little creative here... NEVER tell a lie on a job application BUT you are not required to give a potential employer information about your health... Some suggested answers for the reason you left COULD be... "working conditions" and a simple explaination on interview that the work envrionment was a problem and the employer was unable to make any changes so it was best to part company... OR "Personal" and explain on interview that you asked for an accomidation and the employer was not willing to provide it and you left on good terms. OR "looking for a better opportunity" which is not a lie... you had to seek a better situation for yourself... so it is honest. From what I recall your work hours were a little funny with that job and there were no benefits you can also say something like "no advancement" or "no benefits" and explain that you seek stability and need to find a good company that takes care of its workers.

    If you are not getting the interviews DO NOT assume that it is because of your reason for leaving or your education... it may be something else.. it may not even have to do with you.
    A little story - about 10 years ago I had to fire a guy for serious violations of company policy - he was making rude comments to female co-workers and also had a history of being abusive to male co-worker. About a year later he called me and was very angry and asked what I have been saying about him when people called for a reference - because he could not get a job... I had to laugh at this because I had not received 1 call about him! I ws clear that I had no clue and that he may wish to revise his resume as I had not receive any calls!

    Have a friend read your resume and cover letter. You may be setting yourself up for rejection in the manner you are presenting yourself... and not even know it. Sometimes we can get caught up in "our world" and forget about other views on employment. Your resume may be VERY geared toward your field and you may not be explaining skills you have that cross occupations.

    Jim in your case, many of us on the board can see some of your skills... You are a good researcher, have good written communication skills and also have skills in other areas. USE these and make sure they are clear on a resume! Do not assume that going back to school will get you the job of your dreams...it may help BUT is not a sure thing. You must be creative and honest with yourself.

    I hope this helps...

    Lisa

    I love my job in HR because I work with my employees to find those special skills in themselves and develope them. Some are hidden from you and you must trust in others to help you see them.

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