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    [Remembering loved ones during the holiday]

    Author: Kay (204.184.29.---)

    Date: 12-02-02 12:07

    I was just reading the email from Amy about her first Thanksgiving without her mom. My mom died 9 years ago. I still remember the first holidays without her. They were tough. This year we had to celebrate (if you can call it that) Thanksgiving for the first time without my 10-year old nephew who died suddenly of HCM on November 4. This was extremely tough especially for my brother. One thing which was especially nice, my sister lit three candles and set them on the table. One for each of our family members who have passed away. My mom, my son who died at birth 7 years ago, and one for my nephew Derek. This helped us all feel like they were there with us. Maybe some of you can try this at Christmas and will ease your minds a little. I thought it was a neat idea to share with all of you.

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    [Re: Remembering loved ones during the holiday]

    Author: Sarah B. Board Moderator (12.144.99.---)

    Date: 12-02-02 12:31

    Dear Kay,

    That is a wonderful, inspiring idea and I will try to remember it for Xmas and next year.

    Thank you.

    Sarah

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    [Re: Remembering loved ones during the holiday]

    Author: Linda, Bd of Directors (---.wmnsmd.adelphia.net)

    Date: 12-02-02 14:10

    What a nice idea. Maybe as time goes by, you will find a special candle to match each person. It might make memories even more sweet. Linda

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    [Re: Remembering loved ones during the holiday]

    Author: Amy (---.proxy.aol.com)

    Date: 12-02-02 14:12

    Kay,

    What a beautiful idea. I did end up making it through Thanksgiving. It was tough. We didn't go all out...I roasted a chicken...and made some of my mom's side dishes. It was nice. We talked about my mother, and had a bottle of champagne in her honor. Part of what got me through it was that Lisa had told me that my mother wasn't afraid of dying, but that others would stop living if she wasn't here. I focused on the thought that she would want us to be enjoying ourselves. I havve to admit, that part of me became numb, so I wouldn't have to face so much. Anyway, it wasn't as awful as I thought it would be.

    Best Wishes,

    Amy

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    [Re: Remembering loved ones during the holiday]

    Author: karen (---.dyn.optonline.net)

    Date: 12-02-02 16:52

    I love the idea of the candles Kay. What a great way to bring your three angels to the table. Thanks for sharing that. Karen

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    [Re: Remembering loved ones during the holiday]

    Author: Lisa Salberg (---.dyn.optonline.net)

    Date: 12-03-02 07:20

    Kay - You have inspired me... I think I am going to look into having some special candles made...we can offer them here on the web... it is a way to bring your wonderful idea to many families and raise HCM awareness too.

    I will have to look for happy things...I would hate for people to look at the candles and be sad...I think they should inspire us and make us think of happy times.

    I would like your thoughts on this Kay...Maybe we can even name them after Derek? How would your family feel about that, I simply mention it as a thought.

    I guess you can see I love the idea.

    All the best,

    Lisa

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    [Re: Remembering loved ones during the holiday]

    Author: maura mendoza (---.proxy.aol.com)

    Date: 12-04-02 06:11

    Kay !

    what a wonderful tribute to honor your beloved ....I light a candle for Travis every morning that sits beside his picture, It burns all day every day untill I kiss his picture good night. God Bless you and you'r , Maura

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    [Re: Remembering loved ones during the holiday]

    Author: Elizabeth Barajas (---.proxy.aol.com)

    Date: 12-04-02 17:59

    Kay wrote:

    >

    > I was just reading the email from Amy about her first

    > Thanksgiving without her mom. My mom died 9 years ago. I

    > still remember the first holidays without her. They were

    > tough. This year we had to celebrate (if you can call it

    > that) Thanksgiving for the first time without my 10-year old

    > nephew who died suddenly of HCM on November 4. This was

    > extremely tough especially for my brother. One thing which

    > was especially nice, my sister lit three candles and set them

    > on the table. One for each of our family members who have

    > passed away. My mom, my son who died at birth 7 years ago,

    > and one for my nephew Derek. This helped us all feel like

    > they were there with us. Maybe some of you can try this at

    > Christmas and will ease your minds a little. I thought it

    > was a neat idea to share with all of you.
    NOTE: This is a post from the previous forum message board.
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