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Pam Alexson single mother of 3 wonderful young adults;a special ed teacher, an RN and a senior accountant. Find out more about Pam Alexson
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  • Debbie
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    Pam,

    Just wanted to send you and your son my best. I've been on vacaton for the last 10 days, so I hadn't seen this yet.

    I'm so glad to hear that he made it through the accident, safe and sound, except for the left over emotional distress.

    Debbie

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  • mtlieb
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    Pam,

    Glad to hear everything turned out okay with your son.

    Jim

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  • angall
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    Pam
    I'm so sorry that your son had to learn a lesson by being in an accident. I can remember my mom saying, "Learn by your mistakes". I did and I think your son did, too.

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  • PamR
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    Pam,
    So glad to hear your son is ok. I have two boys, 17 and 20, and an accident like that is a mother's fear when they start driving and you're waiting for them to get home at night. I think you're right about the angels- someone is watching out for us.

    And things that are sometimes scary or sad often have a reason or lesson in the long run. My HOCM experience is like that. I was unsymptomatic until 46, then quickly became very symptomatic needing surgery. During the surgery I needed a patch on my septum and developed heart block.
    There was no intention of putting in a pacer/ICD when we began but I needed one as a result of the surgery, and was disappointed to not have my heart beating on its own anymore. But as fate would have it, 4 mos later I had a VT episode that would have been the end-- except for the fact that I had that ICD and it worked.

    Sometimes life works in mysterious ways. I'm sure your son will reflect on the accident in many ways- and it may serve him well. I hope so- and again I'm glad he's ok.

    Pam

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  • Pam Alexson
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    Yes indeed Shirley. He is doing much better, thanks. Overall I think there has been more of a mental/ emotional trauma to him as you could imagine. He has yet to go further then across the street without anyone with him. He pulled his bike from the shed and has ridden that around. It has been 3years since I saw him on that. As his car is totaled he is stuck home and has not asked to borrow my car. I think it will be a little while longer before he drives again any distance from here. Today I took him on errands with me and he did not once complain about my driving or ask to drive. Now that is a first!!
    Pam

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  • shirleymahoney
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    Pam

    How is your son doing? I hope he is well on his way to recovering physically and mentally and hope he realizes how lucky he is

    Shirley

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  • Pam Alexson
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    Thanks everyone. Mary you are right you ARE also lucky.

    I named my son Timmy cause I was a Lassie addict as a child. I hope he always has happy endings like the story.

    We saw the car , of course it was totaled and a total eye opener to what could have happened.

    Pam

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  • Toogoofy317
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    Pam,

    I'm so glad your son walked away from this I believe in Angles too. I've had way to many of them save my butt! In June of 2000 I was driving down the interstate and a truck lost the retread on the tire. It it my truck head on. I lost control and flipped it on the interstate during rush our traffic. I didn't hit any one else and I walked out of the hospital later that day. With an odd bruise though I had all of the numbers of my gear shifter imprinted on my leg! Two months later I was saved yet again. It was a warm night in August. Since, my truck had been totaled I was riding my bike to work until I could get another car. Well, I was hit from behind thrown up and over it and was almost ran over by another car. I literally could see their bumper when I opened my eyes! I also walked away from this incident with subluxed hip. If that is not proof of guardian angels I don't know what is. People say I have the worst luck in the world but from what I have walked away from. I say I'm pretty darn lucky.

    Much, imporvement on your sons shoulder!

    Mary S.

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  • Eileen2345
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    I am so glad your son is okay after the accident. His Guardian Angel was with him (and I'm sure will always be).

    I am so happy that all is well and that his Angel and God's forces were there with him.

    Huge Hugs to You Pam,
    Sincerely,
    Eve

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  • Heartmans Wife
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    Pam-

    I am so glad those angels were there for you and your son. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

    Ange

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  • Lisa Salberg
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    Pam,

    Yes, I believe in angels...or whatever you want to call them. I do think someone was watching over your son and will continue to. I am very happy that all has worked out so well.

    Be well,
    Lisa

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  • Reenie
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    Pam, I am so happy that your story had such a great ending. I'm just reeling with the thought that moments before Tim didn't have his seatbelt on. Let him know that he's in my thoughts from afar and that I hope his shoulder hurts just a little for a few days to remind him of the angel on his shoulder.

    Reenie

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  • Pam Alexson
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    Thank you everyone for your wonderfull support . Yesterday was a day of very mixed emotions for me. I was joyous to still have my son here but a basket case of emotion, exhausted ( from being at the hospital all night ), wracked from the shear fright and woosh of adrenalin , so it was a bad HCM day consequently. I went to sleep at 8:30 PM and slept til 6AM today,a long comforting sleep, something that I have not had in years. That angel of my son's turned to me last night. The angel has reminded him through all his aches and especially the constant pain on his shoulder that he has been given a gift, a gift indeed.

    Esther, miraculously , Tim has very few cuts and scrapes none requiring medical attention. He walked out of that ER without more then the pain on his shoulder , that shoulder, that wonderfull shoulder to remind him of his angel.

    To share with you a bit more. The strange thing that happened last week on the way back to Rhode Island Hospital for my follow-up after new pacer was that my mom pointed out to me a tow truck service that we passed by. It was where my cousin who was 30 at the time,( now 12 years ago), and who died from cardiomyopathy had worked. It was his last job he had before he died and the one he liked the most because people who were broken down were always glad to see him and he could help. I thought as we passed by, how I missed Bruce and what a great person he was, kind and caring to all , always looking out for someone. My mind immediately went to his grave as I remembered that someone had placed a toy tow truck at his grave site 12 years ago and it is still there. I wondered for a moment, are you still watching over us Bruce? I had a warm essence come over me and felt it was true .. he is still with us.

    My son's accident the other night was almost exactly at this area up on the highway overhead , very near this towing service that Bruce worked for before his death. We found out yesterday that this towing service, where Bruce worked has Timothy's( my son) car, and we will see his car and go there today. Wait, it gets better. Bruce's sister Cheryl got the call from the police first on Sunday night that Tim was in the accident. [ Cheryl moved into my grandmothers old house across the street, with her family about 10 years ago. As my health deteriorated over the years , Cheryl looked out over my son as a second son to her. They even took him on vacations with them. She has become like his other mom. ] Cheryl called us to soften the blow for me the other night and then drove me and Sarah (the daughter whio lives with me) to the hospital. We passed by the tow truck service again. At this time we did not know where the accident had happened or any of the details.

    I know it may sound like I am over the edge,( trust me I am not) but all my life as I became more and more positive and spiritual about things that happen, ( especially to me and those I love), I have been given the gift to find these validations about life and my beliefs and our loved ones who have gone before us. I know you share with me it is often a long walk over the tragic things that can happen and a passing of time before we can arrive at a sence of peace , calmness and return to positive thinking . This is not the first time something like this has happened and probably will not be the last. The outcome to this one is thankfully a great one . I bet many of you are now reflecting on similar occurences that you have also had.

    I think that as we have all recently experienced the loss of Lisa Inman , we can put credence once again to the fact that there really must be some great force beyond our tangible world. I believe the spirit of my cousin Bruce just brought that reality and belief once again to my life. I believe Bruce was that angel that was sitting on my son's shoulder in the wee hours of the 4th of July 2005.

    My Best to all of you.

    Pam

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  • angall
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    Pam

    When I read the beginning of your post, I thought the ending was going to be heartfelt. I'm glad I was wrong.

    Oh yes, I am certain that there was an angel watching out for your son. He has something to do here on earth until he is called home.

    What were his injuries?

    Take care

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  • Linda
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    Pam, Miracles do happen. I'm glad you are able to tell us that your son has been so fortunate. I hope he feels well and has minimal leftover discomforts. I'm sure when he has time to think back, he will realize just how lucky he truly is! Take care, Linda

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