My 12 year old son James has become very depressed. I would like some suggestions for ways to get him motivated about life again if anyone has any! He of course was shocked about 3-4 weeks ago. When we went to the doctor his septum had enlarged more and his gradient was even higher. They have him on 100mg Toprol. He stays extremely tired now, sleeps alot and yesterday when we went to the movies he was completely give out just walking up to the top stairs of the theater.
All he does is play video games. His cardiologist did not want him doing anything until our next visit which is July 18th. All he talks about is the things he can't do. He LOVED baseball and of course they don't want him playing that now. He looks at his dad who has been medically retired since he was 36. His dad doesn't do much of anything at all. His dad did have an alcohol ablation and his health has been much better since, but he still does not work. He draws full disability from VA and SSI. He doesn't see much of a future for himself. I keep telling him there are all kinds of things he can do but all he sees is the negative. Since being diagnosed in January, things have kept changing. I was trying to get him to work on his merit badges for Eagle Scout but he said he doesn't want to do that. To make Eagle you have to hike I think about 50 miles. I told him they would make an exception for him due to physical problems. He said he didn't want to be different than everybody else.
I can see him really depressed and I hate that. He is 12. He loves video games, dirt bikes, 4-wheelers and things all to do with action. Is there anyone else that has a boy that age and have found things they can get involved in. He's the macho type. I just want to see him motivated about something again. I want to see him excited about life again. We go back to the doctor on Monday the 18th of July. We'll find out if things are any better. If things don't get better we'll be going back to Boston. Anyway, any ideas will be appreciated.
School start back here in 4 weeks and he doesn't even want to go back to school. So I just have to figure out something that makes him realize life is not over for him! Thanks for your help! Janet
All he does is play video games. His cardiologist did not want him doing anything until our next visit which is July 18th. All he talks about is the things he can't do. He LOVED baseball and of course they don't want him playing that now. He looks at his dad who has been medically retired since he was 36. His dad doesn't do much of anything at all. His dad did have an alcohol ablation and his health has been much better since, but he still does not work. He draws full disability from VA and SSI. He doesn't see much of a future for himself. I keep telling him there are all kinds of things he can do but all he sees is the negative. Since being diagnosed in January, things have kept changing. I was trying to get him to work on his merit badges for Eagle Scout but he said he doesn't want to do that. To make Eagle you have to hike I think about 50 miles. I told him they would make an exception for him due to physical problems. He said he didn't want to be different than everybody else.
I can see him really depressed and I hate that. He is 12. He loves video games, dirt bikes, 4-wheelers and things all to do with action. Is there anyone else that has a boy that age and have found things they can get involved in. He's the macho type. I just want to see him motivated about something again. I want to see him excited about life again. We go back to the doctor on Monday the 18th of July. We'll find out if things are any better. If things don't get better we'll be going back to Boston. Anyway, any ideas will be appreciated.
School start back here in 4 weeks and he doesn't even want to go back to school. So I just have to figure out something that makes him realize life is not over for him! Thanks for your help! Janet
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