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  • Never been so alone

    Hi! this is leesmom and I need to get things off my chest, so please bear with me. I'm 42 and alone...
    [/b]this is my story

    12/15/02 My 20 year old son died while using his computer in his dorm room at TSU
    He was online with his two best friends when he died.
    The boys heard Lee gasp and nothing
    They disconeccted and called the University Police-It took the police 30 minutes to find my baby because they didn't have room numbers(I still don't understand that). hey called Lee's friends back and they had to tell the police-step-by-step where his room was.
    Lee died at 6:45am and it took until 7:15am before help got to him(he was already gone)
    At 10am I recieved the worse call a Mom could ever recieve-I worked that night so I had only been asleep about 2 hours.
    The man on the other end said something about being a staff member of TSU and then "Is this Meshelle Davis Lee Bowdens Mom? Yes I'm sorry MS. Davis but Lee Bowden died this morning" This was not how a mom should be told her baby died.
    I went to Troy the next day to bring his things home but my dear mom had already put her plan in motion-I wasn' allowed to get his things because of her. (I'll tell this story latter)
    The day I buried my child my Mom told me I had no money so I didn't have rights to my son.
    Then 4 days latter-2 days before xmas she left a note in my car(2 pages) telling me my dead child hated me.
    3 weeks later she had 6 Deputy Sheriffs come in and take my 14 year old son.
    I''ve got to stop because I have to see my counselor and talk to me a Judge.
    I haven't seen my baby since Jan. 10th.

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    Dear Meshelle,

    I'm so very sorry. I can only imagine the pain you are in. While I'm glad that you can talk to us here, it sounds like you need some people closer to home to help you out, too.

    I don't know what kind of services are available to help you see your child, but I hope you are able to get them and to see him.

    Please know that we are here for you and wish you all the best,



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      Meshelle, I'm so sorry for the pain and misery you and your family are suffering. I'm sure this is taking it's toll on your 14 yr old son also. Please continue to work with your counselor and anyone else who may be able to help you all. Let us know how things are going. Best wishes and prayers, Linda


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        Meshelle, I want to offer you my deepest sympathies for all that's happened to you this past year and prayers that both you and your son will be all right. I know you love your son and I hope that you can work out some way to get him back. Wishing you the best of luck.


        Husband has HCM.
        3 kids - ages 23, 21, & 19. All presently clear of HCM.


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          Re: Never been so alone

          I know you are in great pain. I also hear the anger..which I too would have...but you must think with your brain..not your heart now. Work WITH the courts and show them the kind of mother you are, so them your best efforts and they will respond.
          Good luck and know that we are here for you.

          Knowledge is power ... Stay informed!
          YOU can make a difference - all you have to do is try!

          Dx age 12 current age 46 and counting!
          lost: 5 family members to HCM (SCD, Stroke, CHF)
          Others diagnosed living with HCM (or gene +) include - daughter, niece, nephew, cousin, sister and many many friends!
          Therapy - ICD (implanted 97, 01, 04 and 11, medication
          Currently not obstructed
          Complications - unnecessary pacemaker and stroke (unrelated to each other)